Mr. Banana

"....infidelity is not who you lie with, its whom you lie to"

This is what I just saw on this guy's status on facebook. We'll call him Mr. Banana. I met Mr. Banana at the end of November of 2008. I met him online and found out he went to my college, so we would talk and hang out at school, etc. For about 5 months we kind of dated and had some weird fling. At first I was head over heels and I was certain I would marry this guy. But I quickly realized I didn't really like him that much. I was also about to move away for med school and I didn't want to try the whole long distance relationship thing. It was odd, cuz every other week, he would ask me when I was going to get a boyfriend. I would tell him I didn't know, but I was not ready for one at the moment. Then he would say that he wasn't ready for one either. In the beginning, we agreed that we were just having fun, and that our relationship/friendship was nothing serious. But I can recall SEVERAL times where he would get mad at things, and I'd have to remind him that he wasn't my boyfriend. So at the end of April 2008, I told him straight up that I did not like him, and that I only saw him as a friend. All he said was "WOW." So I moved away for school. A few months later, I came home to visit, and he wanted to hang out. He was trying to kiss and touch, and he was still asking about the boyfriend thing. But my answer was still NO.

Well, 2 days later, I get on facebook and all of a sudden he is 'in a relationship' and he posts a butt load of pics of his girlfriend with his mom and sister, their trip to New york, and all these other random couple photos. I was REALLLY confused. So he had a girlfriend, but he was still trying to get at me? What? I left it alone and figured it was a good thing because now he could leave me alone, right? WRONG. Since then, Mr. Banana has STILL been sending me random a** text messages about how he misses me blah blah blah. Last year around October was when things go REALLY crazy. He sent me some questionable text messages and pictures of himself. I assumed he broke up with his girlfriend and I even went on facebook to check. He had taken of 'in a relationship. So I was like... okay they did brake up. Around that time I WAS feeling a little lonely and I got to a point where I was trying to figure out why I didn't like Mr. Banana. He was perfect on paper. Good job, funny, smart, tall, speaks yoruba, and everything else on my list. But I just wasn't feeling him back then. So I started thinking maybe I was just being a bitch. So he called me, and we started reminiscing about all the fun times we had. I decided to ask him about what happened with him and his girlfriend, and he tells me that they are still together. W T F? So I keep asking questions and find out that his girlfriend is a virgin and she wants to wait till marriage. He basically wanted to use me. He said that his girlfriend didn't care if he was messing around with other girls as long as he didn't tell her about it. He had already had sex with some other female. WHAT???? I told him that I was NOT that type of girl. I'm not a sideline ho/home wrecker. I get on facebook a few weeks later. BAM!! they're engaged and getting married at the end of this year.

I thought, finally, he'll stop talking to me. WRONG. A few weeks ago he sent me MORE messages about how he was thinking about me... blah blah blah. I mean, seriously?

So when I saw his facebook status I was like S T F U!


The whole situation with him scared me a little. I stopped whining over the fact that I didn't have a boo. I don't want to rush into any relationship with just anyone. I don't want to be anyone's #2. I'm going to take things slow, and wait for someone that I REEEEAAALLY like and someone that REEEAAALLY likes me. Some real L-O-V-E.

"Don't settle for the one you can live with, wait for the one you can't live without."

WOWZERS

mannnnnnnnnn

something happened today. It was one of those situations where you thought someone had your back, and then BAM! they disappoint you. But it's okay. I'm just gonna brush it off. I expect NOTHING from NO ONE! I learned a long time ago that I can't trust anyone. All my trust is in the Lord.

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I have not watched T.V. since Feb. 17!!!!!!!!!! I can't believe it. I watch WAY too much T.V. and it was starting to interfere with my studies, so I decided to give up T.V. for awhile. At first it was for lent, But then I was like.... why not give up T.V. until after boards? So I don't plan on watching T.V. again until Jun. 1, 2010. But there are a few exceptions. It's okay if I watch t.v. at someone's house if it just so happens to be on, or if someone comes over, then I'll let them turn on my t.v. I'm just not allowing myself to watch any tv shows/ movies (even online) when I'm alone. I didn't think I could do it. I remember when I first unplugged it, I almost started crying and my body was shaking, I felt like a crackhead. I can't believe how addicted I was. Back in October, I watched the first 5 seasons of The Office in 2 weeks AND all the seasons of 30 Rock in like 1 week. I sit in front of the t.v. for HOURS watching nonsense! Keep in mind that I am in medical school and my a** is supposed to be studying. I probably would have gotten 100s on my tests if I wasn't wasting all my time. Now I'm finally focused and studying like I should be. Board exams are right around the corner!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I've been having SUCH bad luck with guys.

Remember that cute boy I saw at church a few weeks back? Well he came to church again. And I was so happy, and I actually got to talk to him. By the end of the day I was already combining my first name with his last name and it sounded sooo perfect.

UNTIL...

I was leaving and one of my aunties yells across the parking lot and says to him, "OH (insert name here) how are you!!! Omo yin ko??" translation... he has a child. My heart was broken. I try my best to avoid guys with kids. And the following Sunday he brought his son to church. He's like 1 yr old. He's sooooo adorable, but I just can't do it. Anyways, I don't know if he liked me, so let me stop acting like something would have happened. HA!

AND THEN...

a few weeks ago I met a guy at KROGER! IN THE BREAD ISLE!! He asked me which bread was the best, and I proceeded to tell him about how to get the most fiber content per slice. It was really cute. And he turned out to be a 4th yr med student that went to school in Cali, but was here for an away rotation. AND he was Nigerian. So he asked me for number and I gave it to him and we planned on hanging out on that Friday after my exam. Well, the night before the exam, he sends me some funny sounding texts. ( I wish I didn't delete them so I could write what he said word-for-word). Anyways, it went something like this

Boy: good luck on test 2morrow
Me: thnx
Boy: so.. how do you want to be treated after a long daunting final exam
Me: lol.. what do you mean?
Boy: What do you normally do after you take exams
Me: I just sit on my couch and do nothing
Boy: You're boring, but don't worry I'M GONNA SPICE YOU UP LIKE A CHILI PEPPER IN A
BURRITO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Me: WTF does that mean? I hope you're not talking about sex.. cuz I don't get down
like that.

once he made the chili pepper burrito comment, I should have left him alone.

So we ended up hanging out that Friday after my test, and it was HORRIBLE. He ended up being MUCH shorter than I thought he was, and he was SOOOO irritating. He kept trying to touch/cuddle/kiss me. And he was RUDE. He kept calling me skinny and saying I needed a bigger booty. And because I wouldn't have sex with him he kept telling me I was 'putting up walls' and that I must have been seriously hurt in one of my past relationship. AND THEN homeboy tried to give me a lap dance and was gyrating on my leg. Since I didn't want to dance with him, out of no where he calls me an AKATA!!!!! i was like "WHAT DID YOU CALL ME?" I was sooooooooooooooooooooo mad. I am NOT an AKATA. That was it. And homeboy was 30, soon to be 31. I assumed that by that age you would know what NOT to do with the opposite sex. I ignored his texts and calls after that.

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Hair News: I blew my hair out!!! I tried it yesterday and it was a FAIL. I don't know what I did wrong, but right after I blew it out, my fro instantly shrank back. Maybe I put too much leave-in conditioner and heat protectant spray. I was using two different kinds of spray for EXTRA protection but I think that was unnecessary. But I tried again today with just one heat protectant spray and the end result was FAB U LOUS!!! I was sooo happy. My hair feels SO soft! It's like a cloud!






so yea......

Let me go and do some Qbank questions before I go to bed.

Goodnite!!!!